Emotional signs that your child is bullying

A refusal or inability to empathise with others is common. You may notice that your child is unable or unwilling to put themselves in the shoes of a person who is being bullied and think about how the bullying might make that person feel. Young people who bully often say that it’s the victim’s fault for not standing up for himself/herself or that he/she should “learn to take a joke”.

Often a bully will show an inability/refusal to accept responsibility for their actions. Children who bully invariably express the opinion that the responsibility for the bullying lies with the victim. Again, they tend to say that it is the victim’s fault for being weak/disrespectful/getting on their nerves/not standing up for him or herself.

Bullies show a desire to be in control. Children who bully often seem to need to be in charge and can find it difficult to share leadership or co-operate with others. They may be able to work with others, but only on their terms.